Looking back with Lot's Wife

January 10, 2001 Well, the first thing we did this year, the little hubby and I, was get into a fight over our New Year’s resolution. It’s about budgeting and my theory is: Make a plan and then let it go off into the universe where the gods of good will and love will take care of it all. His theory is: Balance the checkbook. Obviously a somewhat different approach to something we basically agree on—the need to feel a little bit more organized about where our money is going now that we have two college tuitions to pick up plus some other little plans for the future like maybe taking an actual vacation to somewhere besides the mall. We don’t really fight that much. We both tend to be a little too passive-aggressive so we say things like, “Aren’t you sleepy, dear?” when we really mean, “If you don’t turn out that blankety-blank light and get into bed, I’m moving to a hotel.” Or, “I think you look great in everything, honey!” instead of “You’ve been fat so long that I can’t even remember w

New Year’s Resolutions…again Ok, so its that time again. The time to change your life completely around and make a difference. Be that somebody new you’ve always wanted to be. My husband doesn’t make New Year’s resolutions==which in my opinion is the complete acceptance of getting old and giving up. If you’re not trying to change your life and be better, what ARE you trying to do? Are you just laying around out there, growing a bigger belly button? Get up out of your rut, look yourself in the eye, folks. Let’s make some changes out there! Here’s my first change: I’m not giving my husband any more advice. He never takes it, doesn’t listen, doesn’t value my vast insights. He doesn’t do anything about what I tell him to do. From now on, I’m going to keep the advice I was going to give to him for myself. I will be able to lead the productive, fulfilling, greatly enriched life I envision for him, and he will be left out in the cold with his same boring old problems. Next, I’m going to ask p